We need those who are constantly able to see the good and lovable in us

May 20, 2021 Fear is so dangerous because when it takes over us, it seeps into our very bones and convinces us that we live in a cruel, tyrannical world to which we must adapt. We must shake off our shivering, harden our hearts, and forcefully take what we want. All of this paralyzes the soul. In this environment, there is little or no room for love. And because we live without love, we are unable (or only to a very limited extent) to connect with others, leading to deep isolation within. This eventually manifests as a deterioration in the quality of our relationships or, at the extreme, their total absence. Some people openly embrace fear, while others do not, and even believe that they are afraid of nothing and no one. One type is honest about their vulnerability, while the other hides it behind armor. I, for one, belonged to the latter group for a long time. Despite my apparent courage, deep inside, I was afraid of many things. However, because of this reckless behavior, I dared to open up to directions and discover things I otherwise wouldn't have. But it was a huge effort to shed these armors in order to truly feel and love. But regardless of which type one belongs to, there is a common challenge: overcoming fear. And this can only be done through love. But how can this work if we, or perhaps our closer or broader environment, are also dominated by fear, to varying degrees? This challenge is like a baby learning to walk among people who cannot walk, or can only crawl on all fours. I once heard a statistic about how many times a young child falls before learning to stand and walk. I don't remember the exact number, but it was shockingly high. Where does the faith come from to try standing up after so many falls? It comes from seeing that everyone around them is successfully using their legs. And if others can do it, so can they. Therefore, if no one in our environment is able to walk, we might easily develop the belief that we simply cannot do it. Perhaps some special desire pushed us to try, but after so many losses of balance and falling back to the ground, it proved that we can't walk. The same is true for love. Despite our fear, we try, again and again, but we constantly fall back into fear. And we are unable to channel this feeling towards ourselves and others with the same security and stability that we might instinctively wish for. For this reason, if someone in our environment, by some miracle, has the ability to STABLY channel love, their very presence can give us the faith to keep fighting so that one day, we too can safely love each other.